Online counselling for experiences that may not yet be easy to put into words.

Wu Nan · Lexie

I’m Wu Nan (吴楠), and you can also call me Lexie.

I am an independent psychological counsellor based in Zhuhai, offering online video counselling to adults and couples. I continue to practise under regular professional supervision and take part in ongoing professional training. I also practise through Jiandanxinli (简单心理).

I hold a master’s degree from City University of Hong Kong and a bachelor’s degree from Macau University of Science and Technology.

What we may work with

Our conversations may include recurring patterns in close relationships; your sense of self and self-worth; emotional distress; and the ways early or long-standing relational experiences continue to shape your present life. You may arrive with a clear concern, or simply with a sense that something keeps returning. Not knowing where to begin can itself be a beginning.

At first, you may notice that I leave space before speaking. I listen closely to your feelings, thoughts, and responses—including what takes shape between us. These responses can also become part of the work.

Beginning with Heinz Kohut

Developed by psychoanalyst Heinz Kohut, self psychology explores how a person develops a sense of “being oneself,” and maintains self-esteem, inner stability, and vitality. It also considers how these experiences take shape in relationships with significant others.

We need our feelings and efforts to be recognised, people we can trust and look up to, and a sense of kinship and belonging with others. These relational needs do not simply disappear in adulthood. Living independently does not mean that we no longer need others to respond to us.

When these needs repeatedly go unanswered, or important relational support is disrupted, a person may become more vulnerable to shame, emptiness, or a loss of confidence. Self psychology places empathy at the centre of understanding: it seeks to understand how an experience feels from within before judging it from the outside.

In my work, this means exploring recurring experiences of yourself and others, including moments of understanding and misunderstanding, and the ways we respond to one another in our conversations. Theory offers a way of orienting the work; the work itself begins with your experience.

Background: IAPSP on the origins of self psychology

Selected training

• Jiandanxinli Counsellor Training Programme (2020–2023)
• Xu Jun’s ongoing programme in the New Classical Model of Modern Self Psychology (2025–2027, ongoing)
• Foundational training in EFT-informed marriage and family work and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) (August 2025)
• Training in professional ethics and foundational practice for EFT-informed work with individuals, couples, families, and family systems (November 2025)
• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — International Certification Training in Marriage and Family Therapy, Levels II–III (2026–2027, ongoing)

Additional short courses have covered counselling endings, introductory self psychology, Leslie Greenberg’s Emotion-Focused Therapy, Gestalt therapy, Jungian analysis, music therapy, and integrative systemic approaches.